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When God Says No
May 2021

Growing up in a large family, with five brothers and two sisters there were many times, as a young child I would ask for something special from my parents and they would tell me, “NO”.  I would run back and forth between Mom and Dad and try to influence them as to why they needed to reply with a positive response. But quickly I knew that when the answer was “No!”  Or a reply, as something like “ Let me think about it.” Then that request of my want would not be addressed until a later time and quickly I understood not to keep asking until I had waited and did not push the issue with demands from a temper flair of ill-favor, which displayed kicking or screaming. Also, I knew not to reply with the famous words “ Everyone is or has it”.  So it did not take me long to accept the negative answer which my parents conveyed was decided out of love, protection, and for their best resolutions.

Later in life, and I grew up, situations in life or should I say circumstances continue to dawn its face with decisions and matters of precaution which need to be determined in my walk in this journey called life, and since my parents are no longer here, I take the most critical matters to GOD in prayer and sometimes he too tells me “ NO”.  In that given moment, often times I become frustrated and a little disappointed because that was not what I needed, or wanted.  However, I am learning to trust GOD because he is able to see and know the total outcome of my future, and he is the Captain of my ship.

Now with that being stated, I know that I am under the command from the captain of my ship, which is in the waters called life.   I enjoy clear blue waters when things are going fine, however, there are times when I pray for a situation to change, and I only discover that I become so consumed with the issue that I can make matters worse, unwelcome, and even unpleasant.  Clearly the indication of “ NOT NOW”, “ NO”, or “STOP” has come top priority. But when I am trying to help, and later discover that it only has been a hindrance, exasperation with an extra dose of annoyance reflected with humility and frustration my thoughts become mingled with hurt, or negative results. 

So within my life, I am learning to understand that all my direct orders are coming from a captain who is worthy to know, regulate, conquer, and defeat anything that Satan can throw at me.   I must listen to the voice or commands from him. I realize that sometimes, he will command me to take it slow, and other times he may just say “ No”, so my battle of not having things go my way have to cease.   Next, I move to Plan B, which curtails prayers and supplication.  It is within this period that I reexamine the issues at hand, and search my soul to know what, and how to ask GOD for a response that I can be willing to accept, engage, or incorporate into my life.   Often times, when I pray I am not focusing on the entire circumstance and I may not know all the details, particulars, or characteristics of a given topic so when I attempt to pray, its not correct or I may have missed the mark, and my request is retorted with truancies of anger. In other words, I am learning to pray for the will of my captain to keep my prayers inaccuracy, certainty, and assurance so that I will be able to accept his will and not my own.

About The Author:
Rev. Comage is the senior pastor of St. Paul AME Zion Church in Johnson City, TN, a Family Advocate at Mediation, Site Supervisor at AmeriCorps, and Paraprofessional educator with the Kingsport City Schools.  Rev. Comage is married to Rev. Joseph Comage, pastor of Lyons Chapel AME Zion Church in New Canton, TN.